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<h5>Build Your Mindset</h5>Sex is pleasurable but comes with responsibilities.You don't win by having sex. It's not a competition. &nbsp;<img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp" alt="pattern_5.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Know Yourself</h5>Sex means consenting to do sexual activities with someone else. Consent for sex means that both people agree to take part in the sexual activities. Agreement should be without pressure, obligation, or manipulation. There are different types of sex:<ul><li>Vaginal sex</li><li>Oral sex (mouth)</li><li>Anal sex</li><li>Fingering or hand jobs</li><li>Dry sex or genital rubbing</li><li>Masturbation</li></ul><img class="image_resized" style="aspect-ratio:3086/1364;width:75%;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple1_21efbebf42.webp" alt="simple1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple1_21efbebf42.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple1_21efbebf42.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple1_21efbebf42.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple1_21efbebf42.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="3086" height="1364">People differently like giving and receiving different types of sex. You are allowed to decide what you like and what you're not comfortable with. You can talk to your girlfriend about what you like and don’t like. Sex should feel good and be comfortable. But it also comes with responsibility to ensure you and your girlfriend are having a good experience. It can have deep emotional impacts – positive or negative. It can change a relationship by making you feel closer or your feelings might also change afterwards. This means that if you're going to have sex you should really think it through. Men can feel pressure from society to have sex early, have sex with many people, and perform well to prove their manhood. However, real manhood is about how you treat others. Men that people look up to show other people respect in their relationships. This includes being respectful when having sex.&nbsp;<img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp" alt="pattern_3.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5>Know when you are ready and really want to have sex, and don’t have sex because you feel pressured to. &nbsp;Make sure that you understand consent. You should both have agreed to sexual activity.&nbsp;You should continue to check in with her regularly to make sure she is comfortable. &nbsp;Know how to protect yourself from STIs and from accidentally having children. &nbsp;Know where to buy and how to use a condom.&nbsp;<img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp" alt="pattern_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

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<h5>Build Your Mindset</h5>Understand that sometimes being angry is normal and know the skills to control it.

<h5>Know Yourself</h5>Anger can be a very strong emotion, but it is not necessarily bad.You might feel angry when:<ul class="ul1"><li class="li1">You or a family member feel threatened</li><li class="li1">You feel like you are being treated unfairly</li><li class="li1">You are scolded by your parents</li><li class="li1">Someone says something mean</li><li class="li1">You feel like you're not being listened to</li></ul>When used properly anger can help to motivate you. But when it is out of control it can ruin relationships and have a negative impact on your life.You will know when you are angry when you:<ul class="ul1"><li class="li1">feel hot or your face gets red, your muscles tighten, your heart beats faster</li><li class="li1">behave rudely to others, including adults</li><li class="li1">get into fights with other people</li><li class="li1">lose your temper and say mean things to others</li></ul>When you are angry you might do things you regret later, so it is important to learn how to manage it.We aren't born with the skills to manage our anger. But we can learn how. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp" alt="pattern_1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5>If you feel angry:<ul class="ul1"><li class="li1">Count to 10 slowly. This will help to pause and think through the situation.</li><li class="li1">Slow down your breathing</li><li class="li1">Close your eyes and pretend you are in a place that brings you happiness</li><li class="li1">Ask to leave. This helps to remove you from the situation and calm down.</li></ul>Learn how to describe your emotions using 'I-Statements':<ul class="ul1"><li class="li1">Begin with: I feel. Eg. "I feel"</li><li class="li1">Then: the emotion that you felt. Eg. "upset"</li><li class="li1">Then: the behaviour or situation. "when my sister criticises my clothing"</li><li class="li1">Finish: the effect on you. "because it makes me feel bad about myself"</li></ul>Prevent yourself from getting angry:<ul class="ul1"><li class="li1">Get 8.5 hours of sleep every night. Without proper sleep we are less able to control our emotions.</li><li class="li1">Do some exercise. Regular exercise helps to manage stress levels in the body.</li><li class="li1">Try to think positively. Seeing the positive in things will make you feel less frustrated and overwhelmed.</li><li class="li1">Spend time doing things you love. Such as reading books, fishing, or playing games with friends. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp" alt="pattern_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48"></li></ul>

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<h5>Build Your Mindset</h5>Take personal responsibility for not having a child and preventing Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs). Find a way to get condoms before you have sex. Don't get caught out without protection.<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/testes_2_c2016e2a5d.webp" alt="testes-2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_testes_2_c2016e2a5d.webp 156w, https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_testes_2_c2016e2a5d.webp 500w, https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_testes_2_c2016e2a5d.webp 750w, https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_testes_2_c2016e2a5d.webp 1000w" sizes="100vw" width="1000"></figure><img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp" alt="pattern_1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Build Your Mindset</h5>Condoms are thin pouches made of latex rubber that cover the penis during sex.  When they are used correctly, condoms are 98% effective at preventing pregnancy. They are the most effective way at protecting yourself against STIs. Condoms are not expensive and available in many places. You can buy them at supermarkets and pharmacies.<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/condom_no_tag_1d995b4248.webp" alt="condom-no-tag.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_condom_no_tag_1d995b4248.webp 215w, https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_condom_no_tag_1d995b4248.webp 500w, https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_condom_no_tag_1d995b4248.webp 750w, https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_condom_no_tag_1d995b4248.webp 1000w" sizes="100vw" width="1000"></figure>Each condom can only be used once. After that they must be thrown away. Make sure you keep them in a private but cool and dry place. Exposure to high amounts of heat can damage them. Condoms rarely break. Most of the time if they break it is because they haven't been used correctly. Do not use two condoms at once. If you do it will make them more likely to break as they will rub against each other. Condoms will make sex feel different. Make it feel the best by using lubricant (a liquid or gel specifically made for sex). Make sure you put the condom on before penetration. You can get someone pregnant or get an STI without full ejaculation. You will likely feel embarrassed about buying condoms. That’s normal and everyone has gone through this.<figure class="image"><img style="aspect-ratio:1929/48;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp" alt="cover-for-condom-0" width="1929" height="48"></figure>

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5>Think carefully about whether you are ready to have sex and if you know how to do it safely. Know where you can get condoms locally. You might have to ask a trusted friend where to get them There's different types of condoms but they all do the same thing. The regular size fits almost everyone. But if it feels too tight or too loose, you can try a different size. Practice putting one on before you have sex. This will make sure you do it properly when you feel like you're under pressure. If you and your girlfriend want to have sex and you don't have a condom, don't go ahead. Learn from this and have one ready next time.  Important: Condoms do expire. Make sure you check the expiration date and throw away old ones. &nbsp; <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple3_7da4c57294.webp" alt="simple3.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple3_7da4c57294.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple3_7da4c57294.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple3_7da4c57294.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple3_7da4c57294.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="4788" height="1802"><img class="image_resized" style="aspect-ratio:2470/1802;width:50%;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple4_1ab0473773.webp" alt="simple4.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple4_1ab0473773.webp 214w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple4_1ab0473773.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple4_1ab0473773.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple4_1ab0473773.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="2470" height="1802"><img class="image_resized" style="aspect-ratio:3083/1802;width:75%;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple5_587daedf76.webp" alt="simple5.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple5_587daedf76.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple5_587daedf76.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple5_587daedf76.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple5_587daedf76.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="3083" height="1802"><img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp" alt="pattern_5.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

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Feminism is the belief that all people deserve equal rights and opportunities no matter if they are women or men (their gender). Supporting feminism means actively working towards a fairer world for everybody.<h5>Know Yourself</h5>Feminism is the belief that all people should have equal rights, opportunities, and treatment.But throughout history, women and girls have been treated unfairly and not the same as men (this is called inequality). Feminism tries to fix this unfair treatment and make the world a fairer place.Even today, there are many examples where women and girls are not treated the same. For example, they:<ul class="ul1"><li class="li2">might be stopped from going to school or told not to study science or maths</li><li class="li2">make less money than men even when doing the same job</li><li class="li2">face violence and unwanted attention at work, school, or at home</li><li class="li2">are less represented in politics which means important decisions don't meet their needs</li></ul>People sometimes think that feminists want women to be better than men or that feminists hate men. Actually, this is not correct. Feminism is about making sure that, no matter who you are, you are treated equally.Feminism is not about taking power away from men. It is about providing more opportunities so that everyone has the same chances.It can benefit boys and men by making society a fairer place. It also removes the pressure on boys to act tough all the time. Feminism promotes that it is okay for everyone to feel, care, and be yourself.&nbsp; Many feminists also support issues that affect men, such as supporting men's mental health.In the Pacific, women face many challenges to their rights. This includes limited representation in politics and traditional customs that can restrict their opportunities in life.Women in the Pacific are leading powerful movements for change, standing up for their rights, speaking out against unfair treatment, while also respecting their culture and Pacific values. &nbsp;<img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp" alt="pattern_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Build Your Mindset</h5>From: "feminism is about women's issues only." To: "feminism is about addressing human rights issues that affect everyone." When there is inequality between women and men, we have an unfair society.From: "inequality doesn't affect me." To: "inequality impacts everyone I know, including my mum, my sisters, and my friends." If it affects women in my life, and it will also affect me! &nbsp;<img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp" alt="pattern_5.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5><ol class="ol1"><li class="li1">Listen to the women and girls in your life when they share their experiences about being treated unfairly. Ask questions about their views and don't ignore their concerns. Remember it doesn't feel good when someone else says that your views are incorrect or not important.</li><li class="li1">Question when people say women shouldn’t have the same rights as men. Sometimes people don’t know that what they heard people say is unfair. When you hear something like this in person or online, ask yourself, "Is this unfair?" and "What are some examples where this is not true?".</li><li class="li1">Educate yourself about equality as a human right. This could include watching documentaries or reading. There are influencers that teach men about feminism. Try following @professorneil on TikTok. You can also look up things like "what are some historical examples of discrimination against women?". <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp" alt="pattern_4.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48"></li></ol>

Learn What To SayWhen you hear someone say something that is unfair to women and girls these are some practical ways you can respond:<ul class="ul1"><li class="li2">For jokes: "that's not a nice thing to say, don't you think?" or "Why is that funny?"</li><li class="li2">For comments: "but your mum and sister aren't like that" or "why would you say that, you know that's not true?"</li><li class="li2">With a friend: "man, those comments aren't right" or "I don't agree with that, that's not my experience"</li><li class="li2">In a group: "nah that's not the same for me" or "where did you hear that?" <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp" alt="pattern_3.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48"></li></ul>

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Being a good person means standing up for people who are facing unfair treatment. You can make positive change in the world when you care about other people.<figure class="image"><img style="aspect-ratio:1929/48;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp" width="1929" height="48"></figure>

<h5>Know Yourself</h5>It is important to support your friends when they are treated badly or differently. Respect, caring for each other and fairness matter! No-one should get treated differently or left out because of who they are.&nbsp; This could be because of where they come from, what they look like, the amount of money they have, whether they are boys or girls, who they want to be in a relationship with, or other parts of who they are. Being aware of this helps you show kindness and understanding to others.&nbsp;<img class="image_resized" style="aspect-ratio:2292/2292;width:50%;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple1_e0b10f6c2d.webp" alt="simple1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple1_e0b10f6c2d.webp 156w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple1_e0b10f6c2d.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple1_e0b10f6c2d.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple1_e0b10f6c2d.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="2292" height="2292">For example:<ul class="ul1"><li class="li4">Your female friends might feel pressured to be quiet in class or told they are not good at things like sport or math.</li><li class="li4">Your friends from different islands or countries might have their names pronounced wrong or be left out because of where they came from.</li><li class="li4">Your friend doesn’t fit in well at school and other boys treat them badly and don’t hang out with them.</li></ul>This doesn't have to be large and obvious, it can sometimes show up in small, everyday comments or actions. &nbsp;It may seem harmless, but all these actions also send hurtful messages. For example:<ul class="ul1"><li class="li4">asking someone "where are you really from" when they look like they are different</li><li class="li4">touching someone's hair without permission because it is different </li><li class="li4">saying to a friend “people from your country/island are poor"</li><li class="li4">saying “your lunch smells weird” because it’s from another culture</li></ul>It's important to listen to your friends when they say that they are being treated unfairly as this can often happen when you're not around.&nbsp; Standing up for your friends means speaking up when you see or hear someone being mean to your friends. However, try to be careful with how you speak and not use anger or violence. &nbsp;Using kind and respectful &nbsp;words can be powerful too.&nbsp;<img class="image_resized" style="aspect-ratio:2292/2292;width:50%;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple2_775c62db6e.webp" alt="simple2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple2_775c62db6e.webp 156w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple2_775c62db6e.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple2_775c62db6e.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple2_775c62db6e.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="2292" height="2292">&nbsp;You might feel uncomfortable standing up to others. But you can start by doing something simple such as:<ul class="ul1"><li class="li2">staying close to your friends like sitting with them at lunch, walking with them and including them in activities.</li><li class="li2">listening to your friends and showing that you care when they are facing these difficulties.</li><li>helping them to speak up for themselves and letting them know you’re on their side.</li></ul>When we look out for one another, we build stronger friendships and stronger communities.&nbsp;<img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp" alt="pattern_1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Build Your Mindset</h5>From: "this isn't my problem". To: "my friends' problems are important". If your friends are hurt and you don’t support them, it can make them feel worse and affect your friendship. &nbsp;From: "I don't know what to say". To: "listening and showing that I care is most important". You don't need to say the perfect thing, just listen and learn from their experience. &nbsp;From: "if I try to help I might make it worse". To: "doing nothing doesn't help". You should first think carefully about how to support your friends and then start doing something.<img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp" alt="pattern_5.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5>Listen with attention when your friends share their experiences of being treated unfairly. Ask follow-up questions like, "how did that make you feel?". Don't try to immediately fix the problem. After you listen to them, ask “is there anything I can do to help?”. When someone says something bad about your friend, you could respond to them: &nbsp;"Those comments make me uncomfortable""I don't think that's fair to say""That's pretty hurtful""That's just not true" Notice when someone is being ignored or left out. Try to include them where you can and make sure they feel valued. Learn and be curious about your friend's backgrounds and experiences. Ask respectful questions about their culture, traditions, and challenges they face.<img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp" alt="pattern_4.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

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Standing Up For Friends

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Relationships

<h5>Know Yourself</h5>&nbsp;Being a good boyfriend means showing up as your best self in a relationship.&nbsp;The most important part is showing respect for your girlfriend. For example, you respect them when they don't want to do something.You will both go through challenges. It is important to be there for your girlfriend when she needs it and listen to how you and your girlfriend feel. Sometimes she just wants you to listen and understand her position. Try not to provide solutions unless she asks you for them.You do not always have to agree with your girlfriend. A relationship is healthy when two people can disagree, but both come to an understanding together.You do not have to spend all of your time together. Maintaining your friendships, studies, and hobbies outside of your relationship means your time together is special.<figure class="image"><img style="aspect-ratio:1929/48;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp" alt="pattern_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48"></figure>

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5><ol><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Learn to listen carefully: when your girlfriend is talking, focus on her properly.</li><li style="line-height:200%;">Tell her about your feelings: share your emotions honestly by using 'I-statements' to discuss how you feel like "I get upset when you change our plans without asking me".</li><li style="line-height:200%;">Show how much you appreciate her in the way she prefers. Try to learn whether she just likes spending time with you, likes gifts, prefers compliments, or likes it when you do small things for her. </li><li style="line-height:200%;">Take an interest in what matters to her. You don't have to love everything she does but ask her about what interests her and why. This shows her that you truly want to get to know her and that you care about her.</li><li style="line-height:200%;">Support her hobbies and interests. Show up and support her sports games or family commitments, give her the space to be independent, and support her friendships with other people.</li></ol><img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp" alt="pattern_3_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

Being A Good Boyfriend

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<h5>Know Yourself</h5>Jealousy is when you feel worried or threatened that someone else has your girlfriend’s attention. You might feel uncomfortable when your girlfriend talks to other guys.&nbsp;Some jealousy is normal in relationships, but when it is strong it can lead us to use controlling behaviours both offline and online. For example:<ul style="list-style-type:circle;"><li style="line-height:200%;">Telling her who she can and cannot spend time with.</li><li style="line-height:200%;">Constantly asking her about who she talks to online.</li></ul>Being jealous does not prove you really care about your girlfriend. You prove how much you care through respect and trust.&nbsp;Understand that it is not her job to stop you from feeling jealous. Becoming a man means taking responsibility to manage your jealousy and reactions.&nbsp; <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp" alt="pattern_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5><ol><li style="line-height:200%;">Learn how to talk about your jealousy with your girlfriend. If something is bothering you, you bring it up calmly and without blaming her. Try saying "I feel worried when...".</li><li style="line-height:200%;">Remember her perspective. Jealousy might make your girlfriend feel uncomfortable. Consider how your reactions and emotions affect her and the relationship.</li><li style="line-height:200%;">Work on yourself and your self-confidence. When you feel good about yourself, you are less likely to feel threatened.</li><li style="line-height:200%;">Learn to understand your triggers. Think about the times you have felt jealous and critically reflect on why you think you felt this way. Try to think about how you can manage your emotions better next time and be prepared.&nbsp;</li></ol><img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp" alt="pattern_3_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

Being Jealous of Your Girlfriend

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<h5>Build Your Mindset</h5>You have power over how you feel, it is not determined by others.Being independent will build self-trust. Learn from your mistakes and move forward. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp" alt="pattern_5.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Know Yourself</h5>Your ‘self-esteem’ is how you think and feel about yourself. As you become a man, you will be trying to figure out who you are. Your self-esteem will develop as you discover your different values, interests, and strengths.Puberty will also create changes to your body, which can make you feel self-conscious, and you will compare yourself to others.It is normal to compare yourself to others sometimes but this can also make you feel negatively about yourself.When we have high self-esteem we:<ul class="ul1"><li class="li1">Like and value ourselves</li><li class="li1">Believe we deserve to be treated well by others</li><li class="li1">Feel able to try new or difficult things</li><li class="li1">Feel able to stand up for ourselves</li></ul>When we have low self-esteem we might:<ul class="ul1"><li class="li1">Feel bad about ourselves</li><li class="li1">Think we're not good at anything</li><li class="li1">Worry a lot about how we look or what others think about us</li><li class="li1">Avoid social situations and some (often new) activities</li></ul>You're likely to be feeling pressure from others to look or act a certain way. These impact how you see yourself and your self-esteem.Being independent and making your own decisions will make you feel more confident. You will make mistakes but this is normal.How you see yourself is most important. How you see your abilities, your appearance, your mistakes, and your worth has a powerful impact on how you feel.Self-esteem starts with thinking about yourself positively. Focus on your strengths to benefit your mental and physical health. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp" alt="pattern_3.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5><ul class="ul1"><li class="li1">Spend time with positive people that make you feel good about yourself. If you feel like it is possible, distance yourself from those who put you down.</li><li class="li1">When trying to improve it is important to set small and realistic goals. When you achieve these goals celebrate these wins.</li><li class="li1">When you feel like you have done something wrong, be kind to yourself. Talk to yourself positively as if you were talking to a friend.</li><li class="li1">Take a positive look at yourself. Recognise the strengths you demonstrated in dealing with a particular situation. Write them down if possible.</li><li class="li1">Build skills in areas you are interested in. This could be music, sports, arts, etc. Becoming better in an area or learning new skills builds self-confidence and identity. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp" alt="pattern_4.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48"></li></ul>

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Self-Esteem

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Learn about consent before having sex. It's an important way of showing trust and respect for the other person and an important life skill.&nbsp;<h5>Know Yourself</h5>‘Consent’ is to give permission for something to happen, or we agree to do something.&nbsp;Consent for sex means that both people agree to take part in the sexual activities.&nbsp;We should agree only if we really want to — not because someone is forcing or tricking us.&nbsp;If someone feels forced to say ‘yes’ or is afraid to say ‘no’, then that is not consent.When someone says nothing, doesn't say no or doesn't resist it does not mean they consent.&nbsp;Many people freeze when they are uncomfortable and may not be able to say no clearly.They might feel pressured not to speak because they worry, you'll stop liking them, or they might feel guilty.Even if someone agrees to one activity, it doesn't mean they will agree to other activities.We can say yes but then change our minds and say no.Pay attention to their body language. If they are moving away, look uncomfortable, tense, or are not very interested, then it might mean they do not want to continue. Always check and ask.Consent may feel awkward or uncomfortable, but it doesn't have to be. Checking in with the other person shows care and safety. This builds trust and respect.Checking for consent also gives us both chances to change our minds. Even if we said yes, we could always change our minds at any time.Nobody can consent when asleep, unconscious, or when they are drunk or high on drugs.Having sex with someone who has not agreed is illegal.People tend to think that men should always want sex. This is not true! It is always our choice every time we have sex. Men might say no because it is with someone they don't care about, because they feel uncomfortable, they are tired, or they're not ready. &nbsp; <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp" alt="pattern_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Build Your Mindset</h5>From: "I don't need to understand consent, we'll figure it out" To: "It's important to understand consent before I have sex, so we both feel good." From: "It's up to her to say no." To: "It's my responsibility to make sure she feels safe and comfortable with me, I need to check with her." <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp" alt="pattern_1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5>Learn how to talk to her and check in. Think about different things you could say and practice them:<ul><li>How are you feeling?</li><li>Do you like this? Is this ok with you?</li><li>Is it ok if I kiss you?</li><li>Do you want to slow down?</li><li>You don't have to do anything you don't want to.</li><li>Sure, we can stop at any time.</li><li>I need to take a break.</li><li>I don't feel comfortable doing that here.</li><li>I'm feeling too drunk now.</li><li>Maybe next time?&nbsp;</li></ul><figure class="image image_resized" style="width:28.17%;"><img class="image" style="aspect-ratio:540/530;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple3_ff8c44e77c.webp" alt="simple3.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple3_ff8c44e77c.webp 159w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple3_ff8c44e77c.webp 500w," sizes="100vw" width="540" height="530"></figure>Be mindful to reassure your girlfriend:<ul style="list-style-type:disc;"><li style="line-height:200%;">You don't have to do anything you don't want to.</li><li style="line-height:200%;">Sure, we can stop at any time.</li></ul>Understand how to say no for yourself:<ul style="list-style-type:disc;"><li style="line-height:200%;">I need to take a break.</li><li style="line-height:200%;">I don't feel comfortable doing that here.</li><li style="line-height:200%;">I'm feeling too drunk now.</li><li style="line-height:200%;">Maybe next time?&nbsp;</li></ul>Learn how to read body language in non-sexual settings. Can you tell from their body movements when they are not comfortable, confused, or don't want to participate? How do you behave? How would you feel if you were forced to do something that you didn't want to?Learn how to accept rejection respectfully. Consider how the other person might be feeling. They may be uncomfortable and not want to continue, and that’s okay. It’s not a reflection of your value or who you are.<img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp" alt="pattern_3_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

Consent for Sex

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<h5>Erections</h5>An erection happens when blood flows into the spongy tissue inside the penis. This makes it feel hard and erect. Your penis may stick out straight or curve when it is erect. These are both normal. The penis isn't made of muscle and does not have any bones. It is possible to 'break' a penis. This can happen if you have an erection and it is bent suddenly or with force. It is not a common injury. It is normal to have erections, even when you haven't seen anything sexually exciting. This also happens regularly when you sleep. &nbsp;<img class="image_resized" style="aspect-ratio:2330/1406;width:75%;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple2_8c9c625387.webp" alt="simple2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple2_8c9c625387.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple2_8c9c625387.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple2_8c9c625387.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple2_8c9c625387.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="2330" height="1406">&nbsp;<img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp" alt="pattern_1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Ejaculations</h5>Ejaculation (often called ‘cumming’) is when semen (often called ‘cum’) is released from the end of the penis. This usually is because of sexual arousal (being turned on). Semen is made of two things:<ul><li>sperm - this comes from the testes. It is like a white colour and looks sticky or like cream or milk.</li><li>semen - clear fluid that helps carry the sperm.</li></ul>Think of it like a river (semen) carrying fish (sperm) into the ocean (female body). There is also a slippery fluid that is released before ejaculation. It is called 'pre-ejaculate' (often called ‘pre-cum’). It helps sex to be smooth. It is like semen and can have some sperm inside, so it could make someone pregnant.<figure class="image"><img style="aspect-ratio:1929/48;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp" alt="cover-for-erection-and-ejaculation-0" width="1929" height="48"></figure>

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<h5>Know Yourself</h5>The penis is used for both peeing and for sex.The penis is made up of three parts<ul class="ul1"><li class="li1">the shaft - the long and straight section</li><li class="li1">the glans - which is the tip or the head</li><li class="li1">the urethra - the tube inside the penis that carries urine or semen</li></ul>The penis is like a pipe<ul class="ul1"><li class="li1">It carries urine from the bladder out of the body by peeing</li><li class="li1">It carries sperm out of the body during sexual activity</li></ul>The penis has lots of nerves. This is why it is sensitive to touch and why it feels good when stimulated.The foreskin is a fold of skin that covers the head of the penis. Not every boy has a foreskin as it is sometimes removed by a doctor (called ‘circumcision’).During puberty the penis and testes (often called ‘balls’) will grow in size. This is caused by changes in your hormones.Every penis does the same thing, but every penis looks different. There is no normal or right way that a penis should look like.Some penises are straight and some are curved. Some are small when soft but grow a lot when they get hard. Others stay about the same size when soft and hard.The size of your penis does not determine whether you are more manly or less manly. It also does not mean you will be better or worse at sex.When you are cold or have been swimming your penis will look smaller. This is normal and only temporary. Your body is trying to protect your penis and testes from the cold. Once you get warmer, it will return to normal size. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp" alt="pattern_1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5>It is important that you keep your penis and testes clean. Make sure to wash carefully under the skin at the end of your penis (the foreskin) with water and a mild soap. You might need to pull the skin back to do this. Otherwise, it can affect your health and comfort.Check for unusual changes, like rashes, swelling, lumps and bumps. If you notice something different, see a doctor.Wear comfortable and breathable underwear. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp" alt="pattern_3.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

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<h4>Build Your Mindset</h4>Treat everyone kindly, no matter their gender or how they identify. Understand who you are and that other people might identify themselves differently. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp" alt="pattern_5.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h4>Know Yourself</h4>Society tells us there’s only one way to be a man or woman. It also tells us how we should look and who we should love. But there are many different ways to be a man. Think of the many different versions of men that you know in your life. We can choose to dress the way we want, love who we love, and choose who we want to be. These things can also change over time. There are three main important points to understand: biological sex, gender, and sexual orientation. Biological Sex Your biological sex is the physical body that you are born with. It is a label given to you by your doctor and would be listed on your birth certificate (if you have one). Your biological sex:<ul><li>is a medical term based on your genes, hormones, and body parts. &nbsp;</li><li>categorises you as either female, male, or intersex. (Intersex is when someone is born with male and female biological traits). &nbsp;</li><li>is not changeable without surgery. &nbsp;</li></ul><img class="image_resized" style="aspect-ratio:2766/1674;width:50%;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple2_a32bb6b8be.webp" alt="simple2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple2_a32bb6b8be.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple2_a32bb6b8be.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple2_a32bb6b8be.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple2_a32bb6b8be.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="2766" height="1674">Gender Gender is how society expects people to look, think, and act as&nbsp; women or men. Every culture has different beliefs and informal rules about how women and men should be. For example, many cultures believe men:<ul><li>are natural leaders &nbsp;</li><li class="li3">should be strong and not show emotion &nbsp;</li><li class="li3">should act aggressive and dominant</li></ul>Some of these ideas can be great for you to include in your version of manhood. But we can all create and be the men we want to be. There are many different and positive ways to be a real man.<img class="image_resized" style="aspect-ratio:2418/3201;width:33.52%;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple1_a30c1980a8.webp" alt="simple1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple1_a30c1980a8.webp 118w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple1_a30c1980a8.webp 378w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple1_a30c1980a8.webp 567w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple1_a30c1980a8.webp 755w," sizes="100vw" width="2418" height="3201">Sexual Orientation Sexual orientation describes who you are attracted to emotionally, romantically or sexually. We have provided more information on sexual orientation in its own section. Biological sex, gender, and sexual orientation are complicated. For example: Even though you were born male (your biological sex), you might not want to act the way society expects men to act (your gender). It also doesn’t decide who you’re attracted to (your sexual orientation). You might experience each of these differently and it might be different from your friends. You can't tell someone's sex, gender, or orientation from their outside appearance. Diverse gender identities and sexual orientations have existed throughout history and across cultures, including in the Pacific. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp" alt="pattern_1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5>Learn these concepts to better understand yourself and people around you. If you have difficulties understanding, you can try looking for more information. Understand that diverse sex, gender, and orientation are not new in the Pacific. People in our region have always been diverse and have many different ways of expressing ourselves. Reflect on your own thinking about what manhood means.. Do you meet society’s expectations? What do you want to do differently from other men in the community? Do not feel you need to share your thoughts with anyone, unless you feel safe to do so. Respect diversity in others. Remember that everyone has different experiences and that's ok. Do not use language that might be harmful. Make your version of manhood include respect for other people to be themselves.<img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp" alt="pattern_3_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

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<h5>Build Your Mindset</h5>Know: Being frustrated when love or crushes don’t go how you want is normal. Practice: personal control. This will help you throughout your life. &nbsp;<img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp" alt="pattern_3_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Know Yourself</h5>During puberty your body will change and lead to an increase in sexual thoughts and desires. This may cause feelings of frustration and might feel overwhelming or confusing.<img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple1_0822c56fa7.webp" alt="simple1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple1_0822c56fa7.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple1_0822c56fa7.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple1_0822c56fa7.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple1_0822c56fa7.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="2634" height="827">Everyone goes through these changes as they grow, you're not alone. Your level of sexual desire might develop at a different rate and time to your friends. That is totally normal. When you hear your friends talk about dating and sexual experience, it can create pressure to have sex. But most teenagers are not dating or sexually active, so your friends might not be telling the truth. When you express romantic interest in someone, they might not feel the same way. This is a common experience and might be emotionally difficult. It will take you time to understand how to express interest and then handle rejection respectfully. Most adults also find this difficult. This tension between sexual and romantic desire is a normal part of life. You need to learn how to manage it effectively. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp" alt="pattern_4.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5>Understand that these feelings are normal and that if feelings for someone aren’t returned, you can move on. You could try masturbating on your own and in private to relieve the sexual stress. Channel your energy into positive activities. This could be hobbies, sports or goals. Be kind to yourself when experiencing rejection or frustration. This can happen to anyone and doesn't reflect your worth. &nbsp;<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:901/942;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple2_6e05d711a4.webp" alt="simple2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple2_6e05d711a4.webp 149w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple2_6e05d711a4.webp 478w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple2_6e05d711a4.webp 717w," sizes="100vw" width="901" height="942"></figure><img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp" alt="pattern_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

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<h5>Build Your Mindset</h5>Understand sexual orientation and learn about it from trusted sources.Treat everyone with respect, no matter who they are. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp" alt="pattern_1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Know Yourself</h5>Your sexual orientation is who you feel attracted to emotionally, romantically, and/or sexually.Everyone is attracted to different types of people. Some people are attracted to:<ul class="ul1"><li class="li1">people of a different gender (heterosexual, straight)</li><li class="li1">the same gender (homosexual, gay, lesbian)</li><li class="li1">multiple genders (bisexual, pansexual)</li><li class="li1">or have little or no sexual attraction to anyone (asexual)</li></ul>Your sexual orientation is not a choice or something you can change. It is a natural part of who you are.Everyone will take time to understand their sexual orientation. For some they know early in their life and for others they may know later.How you were raised, and your family history doesn't determine your sexual orientation. People cannot be 'turned gay'.Being friends with people of different sexual orientations won't change your sexual orientation. But it does help you to understand their lives better.Everyone deserves to be treated with respect, no matter who they are attracted to. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp" alt="pattern_5.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5><ul class="ul1"><li class="li1">Take time to read about sexual orientation from health organisation websites or resources for youth.</li><li class="li2">If you have questions about your sexual orientation, talk about it with trusted persons. But you should never feel that you need to share with anyone, unless you feel safe to do so.</li><li class="li1">If you don’t have someone you feel safe to talk to about it, there are some helpful organisations you can reach out to online. They may be able to understand your situation better.</li><li class="li1">Understand that everyone’s journey to understand&nbsp; sexual orientation is different. It can take time to become clear as you go through puberty and adulthood.</li><li class="li1">Learn to question common ideas about sexual orientation. When someone you know say something bad about people of a specific sexual orientation, think about it and ask is that really true? <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp" alt="pattern_3.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48"></li></ul>

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<h5>Build Your Mindset</h5>Take personal responsibility - protect yourself during sex. &nbsp;<img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp" alt="pattern_1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Know Yourself</h5>A sexually transmitted infection (STI) is an infection that spreads from one person to another through sexual contact. STIs can spread from oral, anal, and vaginal sex. They can also spread by skin to skin contact. Some symptoms of STIs include:<img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple1_45fd0bd53c.webp" alt="simple1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple1_45fd0bd53c.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple1_45fd0bd53c.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple1_45fd0bd53c.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple1_45fd0bd53c.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="3953" height="1300">You might also not have any obvious symptomsIf you notice any of these symptoms, please see a doctor. If you go early enough, most STIs can be easily treated. If you are sexually active, you should also tell your girlfriend, she might have it too. If you don’t tell her, you may become reinfected yourself. If you get an STI and leave it untreated, you might not be able to have children in the future.  You can protect yourself from STIs by using a condom during sex. &nbsp;<img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp" alt="pattern_3_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5>Always use a condom (and lubricant) when having sex. Know how to use a condom properly before you have sex. Try not to have sex with lots of people. This will decrease your risk of getting STIs. If you're having sex with more than one other person, get a regular STI checks from a health clinic, if possible. Be ok to talk to your girlfriend if they are experiencing symptoms. The symptoms are different from man to women but it’s important to talk about it so they can also get checked. You should not feel shame, or judge people for discussing STIs. They are a regular part of sexual activity. It’s better to speak about them rather than to ignore. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp" alt="pattern_4.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

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<h5>Know Yourself</h5>The testes (balls) are two oval shaped organs inside the scrotum. The scrotum is the sack of skin that hangs beneath the penis. They produce:<ul><li>Sperm - the cells needed to make a baby through sex.</li><li>Testosterone - the hormone that helps to develop the male body, like muscle growth, body hair, and a deeper voice.</li></ul><figure class="image image_resized" style="width:75%;"><img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/new_3_986dcc3953.webp" alt="new-3.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_new_3_986dcc3953.webp 188w, https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_new_3_986dcc3953.webp 500w, https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_new_3_986dcc3953.webp 750w, https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_new_3_986dcc3953.webp 1000w" sizes="100vw" width="1000"></figure>&nbsp;The testes hang lower than your body. This is to keep them cool and make sure they can produce sperm. The size of your testes varies from person to person. Their size does not affect the ability to have children, strength as a man, or how good you are at sex. Keeping your testes cool is important for sperm production. Wearing tighter underwear may make them warmer and decrease your sperm production. It is normal that one teste to hang lower than the other. This helps to prevent them from pressing against each other. If you get hit in the testes it will be painful, but it is unlikely to cause serious long-term harm or prevent you from having children.&nbsp;<img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp" alt="pattern_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5>Wear loose fitting underwear, if possible. This will help to keep your testes cooler. Try and protect them from injury when playing sport. Wash them regularly and check for changes, such as lumps. If they are more sensitive than normal or you notice pain, lumps or swelling it is important that you see a doctor.<img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple2_e5b5128872.webp" alt="simple2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple2_e5b5128872.webp 185w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple2_e5b5128872.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple2_e5b5128872.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple2_e5b5128872.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1600" height="1347"><img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp" alt="pattern_4.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

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Manhood

Real strength comes from being true to yourself and showing strength of character. Not from acting tough like some influencers say you should.&nbsp;<h5>Know Yourself</h5>A lot of boys are told to act tough. Acting tough is when you hide your emotions (except anger), use aggressive language or behaviour, or act like you're better than others.You might believe you need to act this way to avoid being seen as weak by others.Some influencers say that men should act like they are ‘alpha’. They say that being alpha is to be dominant and in control at all times. This is usually to earn respect and attraction. The alpha concept comes from old studies of lone wolves (yes, the animal). It is not relevant to human relationships and is especially not relatable to our lives, where community, belonging and family connection is so important.<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:5466/2774;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple1_ea37d202dc.webp" alt="simple1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple1_ea37d202dc.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple1_ea37d202dc.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple1_ea37d202dc.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple1_ea37d202dc.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="5466" height="2774"></figure>Acting tough can hurt you because it prevents you from forming real friendships and dealing with your emotions. It also leads you to take more risks and can make you feel alone and stressed out.When you act tough this is usually a performance. It creates distance between your true self and how you present yourself to others.Some social media influencers try to make you feel like you’re not manly enough or that girls won’t like you unless you change. For example, they might say you need to take a special supplement or follow their workout plan to be a 'real man.' They do this to gain followers or even to sell you products and make money from you. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp" alt="pattern_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Build Your Mindset</h5>From: "I need to be dominant to get respect" To: "I earn respect through being a good man." Don't try to build respect by putting others down or being powerful, earn it through being trusted, reliable, and treating others fairly. People will trust and respect you when you are reliable, humble and stand up for what's right. That includes showing care for your family, your friends and your community. <figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:3000/2394;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple2_c9ab4c6057.webp" alt="simple2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple2_c9ab4c6057.webp 195w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple2_c9ab4c6057.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple2_c9ab4c6057.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple2_c9ab4c6057.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="3000" height="2394"></figure> From: "dealing with my emotions alone makes me strong" To: "learning to manage my emotions is real character." Don't bottle up your feelings, learn to manage them. Look after yourself the same way you would after others in your family and community. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp" alt="pattern_1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5><ol><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Figure out who you really are. Take the time to understand what your real personality is. Be a man that will make you feel proud. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Question online content. When viewing content online ask: "how do they profit from me believing this?" and "what evidence do they have to support this other than their personal opinion?" and "is this view potentially harmful?" &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Find balanced role models. Look for men in your life that demonstrate both traditional forms of strength as well as who know how to manage their emotions and care for their relationships and community. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Learn how to earn respect in ways genuine to yourself. Build respect through keeping your word, standing up for others, and being dependable and supportive.</li></ol><img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp" alt="pattern_3_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

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Being independent or self-sufficient means developing both practical skills and emotional intelligence. You must know when to stand on your own and when you need to lean on your family, friends or community for support. <h5>&nbsp;</h5><h5>Know Yourself</h5> Being independent means being able to take care of your basic needs on your own.  True self-sufficiency means taking responsibility for your own needs but understanding when it is time to ask for help or support. Being independent is good, but some men take it too far and forget that they need other people to lead a good life (and they become lonely). Community is important, strength is not about doing everything by yourself. To be truly self-sufficient, it is important that you also develop life skills. This includes understanding and managing your emotions, developing respectful relationships, and making good decisions. Knowing how to work with others and showing respect for those around you make you better. Managing your emotions will help you get far in life:<ul><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">You'll better understand other people's feelings and perspectives.  &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">You'll improve your relationships.  &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">You'll show true strength by caring for others.  &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Without it you'll keep your feelings inside which can make you very sad, angry and lonely. &nbsp;</li></ul><figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:1914/1729;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple1_da61d88aed.webp" alt="simple1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple1_da61d88aed.webp 173w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple1_da61d88aed.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple1_da61d88aed.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple1_da61d88aed.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1914" height="1729"></figure>You might think that men don't need help. But everyone needs help sometimes. Working with others helps you achieve your goals, whether it’s with your friends or family, or whomever you asked for support. You are not meant to figure everything out on your own. Learning from friends, mentors, and teachers is the smartest ways to build skills and knowledge and it means you can share experiences with others. You can start by building a set of practical life skills that allow you to solve problems and contribute to your family and community. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp" alt="pattern_4.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Build Your Mindset</h5> Change from: "I have to do everything myself" to understand: "I can work with other people." The strongest people know their abilities and value their relationships to the people around them. Working together builds trust, care and unity. Shift from: "asking for help is weakness" to: "learning from others is strength." Understand that the most successful people are constantly learning from others. Knowing you are not alone and being open to learning from others in your community shows real humility. <figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:1914/1729;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple2_00fba4b58a.webp" alt="simple2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple2_00fba4b58a.webp 173w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple2_00fba4b58a.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple2_00fba4b58a.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple2_00fba4b58a.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1914" height="1729"></figure> <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp" alt="pattern_3_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5><ol><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Learn one practical skill each month. Learn to play a new musical instrument, cook a meal, make your favorite snack, try a new sport, or repair something simple. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Set a personal goal and track your progress against it. Choose something that is meaningful and aligns with your values. Break it down into smaller steps and then celebrate when you achieve it. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Give yourself time to think through solutions but know when you need support. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Learn basic financial skills. Start saving small amounts, understand how interest works, and learn how to be mindful about spending. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Try to do something kind for others regularly. Helping others builds your own confidence and will bring you happiness.</li></ol><img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp" alt="pattern_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

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Learn to be comfortable communicating with others. This will help you to connect, build friendships and be supported.&nbsp;<h5>Know Yourself</h5> Talking honestly and listening with respect and empathy to others helps to build strong relationships with the people around you. It is important that you learn the skills to understand how you feel and&nbsp;express it to other people in a clear, kind and honest way. &nbsp;For example you're practicing these skills when you tell someone:<ul><li>"that something a friend said hurt you" &nbsp;</li><li>"that you appreciate something nice they did for you" &nbsp;</li><li>"that you are feeling a lot of pressure from family and friends" &nbsp;</li><li>"that you need advice or guidance when you're facing difficulties"</li></ul>Sharing will feel different with different people. You might message a friend, have a deep conversation with a relative, or use art or music to express yourself.What matters most is staying true to yourself and showing care and respect for others. Men aren't usually taught to openly share their emotions. They often learn this when they experience hardship during their lives and are advised to ‘toughen up’. Many men don't ever learn this skill. But you can—and doing so can make your relationships and life stronger. &nbsp;<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:1571/1273;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple1_42c692679a.webp" alt="simple1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple1_42c692679a.webp 193w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple1_42c692679a.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple1_42c692679a.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple1_42c692679a.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1571" height="1273"></figure>It's important to understand that when you communicate with others they might not react the way you want. They likely care deeply about you but might not know how to respond. Especially other men! When you talk to someone and it doesn't go well the first time it can discourage you, but don’t give up. You can always try again with the same person or with someone else. You will improve with time, and you might have a better experience next time. You don't need to handle everything on your own. Everyone needs support.&nbsp;<img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp" alt="pattern_1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Build Your Mindset</h5> From: "I need to figure things out alone." To: "talking through things with someone I can trust will help me to understand my feelings."Trust, connection and caring for yourself and others really matter. Being responsible for your own wellbeing (and supporting others)&nbsp; helps keep our communities strong and united.&nbsp; From: "keeping everything inside shows that I'm strong." To: "sharing my thoughts with others shows courage and builds connection."Sharing what's on your mind helps you stay balanced and reminds you that you're part of a community that looks out for one another. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp" alt="pattern_3_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5><ol><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Make sure to choose the right moment to talk to someone. Find a time to talk to them when they're not tired, rushed, or distracted. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Talk about yourself and your emotions. Don't blame others for the way you feel, just concentrate on sharing how you feel. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">When you talk to them, you can describe how you feel using 'I-Statements': &nbsp;<ul><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Begin with: I feel. Eg. "I feel" &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Then: the emotion that you felt. Eg. "pressured" &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Then: the behaviour or situation. "when I have rugby game" &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Finish: the effect on you. "because it makes me feel worried about losing and other people seeing me playing badly"</li></ul></li></ol><figure class="image image_resized" style="width:77.1%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:1898/1228;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple2_f22f184fb4.webp" alt="simple2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple2_f22f184fb4.webp 241w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple2_f22f184fb4.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple2_f22f184fb4.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple2_f22f184fb4.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1898" height="1228"></figure><ol start="4"><li>Be specific about what you need. Sometimes you might just need someone to listen to you. Other times you might need help or advice.</li></ol><img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp" alt="pattern_4.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

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Communicating To Others

Taking responsibility for your actions and learning to apologise builds stronger relationships and helps you grow into a respectful and trustworthy man. &nbsp;<h5>Know Yourself</h5> You might find it difficult to admit when you've made a mistake or hurt someone. This can happen especially when you didn't mean to or when you think it might make you look weak. But being a good man means showing honesty, humility and respect. Blaming others and making excuses might feel easier at the time, but it usually makes the problem worse, and damages trust between you and other people. You might have experienced that it feels good when someone genuinely owns up to having hurt you instead of denying it or saying you were wrong - this might have restored trust and connection. You might worry about looking bad or being judged if you admit to messing up. But most of the time others will respect you for taking responsibility. &nbsp;<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:1571/1273;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple1_d8e695ae41.webp" alt="simple1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple1_d8e695ae41.webp 193w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple1_d8e695ae41.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple1_d8e695ae41.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple1_d8e695ae41.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1571" height="1273"></figure>&nbsp;Even if you didn't mean to hurt someone, it is important to apologise if you did. This shows courage, empathy and strength of character. Being a good man means taking responsibility and admitting when you are wrong or when your actions hurt someone. This is not a sign of weakness but a sign of courage empathy and strength. It's important to recognise that taking responsibility for what you do and being honest about your actions really matters. It's about personal growth and being someone others can rely on. These qualities build stronger families, friendships and communities. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp" alt="pattern_1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Build Your Mindset</h5> From: "apologising makes me look weak" To: "taking responsibility shows maturity and strength" It won't damage your reputation, and others will recognise that you are mature and respectable. From: "if I make a mistake I should hide it or defend it" To: "mistakes are part of learning and help you do better next time" Everyone makes mistakes. Face them directly and don’t let them become something you feel ashamed of.<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:75%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:1571/946;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple2_8844f5f0fd.webp" alt="simple2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple2_8844f5f0fd.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple2_8844f5f0fd.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple2_8844f5f0fd.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple2_8844f5f0fd.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1571" height="946"></figure> <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp" alt="pattern_3_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5><ol><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Learn how to give a proper apology using these steps:<ul><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Clearly state what you did wrong ("I'm sorry that I forgot to")</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Acknowledge how it affected the other person ("I understand that might have made you feel upset")</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Avoid adding excuses (for example, "I'm sorry but")</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Explain what you'll do differently next time ("in the future I'll”)</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Ask how you can make it right, if possible ("is there anything I can do to fix this?")</li></ul></li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Take a moment before getting upset if someone says you hurt them. Try to understand how they feel. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Follow through if you say you're going to change. If you do, the other person will slowly regain trust in you. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Start by taking responsibility for small things first. Learning to own up to your actions takes practice.</li></ol> <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp" alt="pattern_5.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

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Owning Up When You’ve Done Something Wrong

Good friends support you as you are. Recognise when peer pressure is negatively affecting you and protect yourself.&nbsp;<h5>Know Yourself</h5>Peer pressure is the influence that friends or other people you hang out with have on your choices, behaviours, and attitudes. It can be direct, where others tell you to do something, or indirect, where you feel like you need to act a certain way to fit in. You might experience peer pressure when you feel pushed to do things that make you feel uncomfortable, like:<ul><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">drinking alcohol</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">smoking</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">using drugs</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">skipping school</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">dressing a particular way</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">acting tough</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">being mean to others</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">having sex</li></ul><figure class="image image_resized" style="width:69.69%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:1394/542;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple1_cd97d08280.webp" alt="simple1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple1_cd97d08280.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple1_cd97d08280.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple1_cd97d08280.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple1_cd97d08280.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1394" height="542"></figure>Peer pressure can feel stronger when you’re in a group. You might feel like you need to go along with them because you’re afraid of being excluded, missing out on the fun, or being teased. Maintaining your friendships will feel incredibly important so you might choose to go along with the group even when you don’t want to. Making choices you don't agree with can lead to stress, anxiety, and regret. But if they are really your friends, they will respect your decision, even when this is different to what they want. Standing up to peer pressure is very difficult but doing what feels right is part of being a good man – it shows who you really are and takes real strength. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp" alt="pattern_4.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Build Your Mindset &nbsp;</h5>From: "I need to prove myself to be accepted" To: "my real friends accept me" It’s ok to be different as long as it doesn’t harm anyone else. From: "if I don't go along with my friends, I'll be alone" To: "it's better to be true to myself and not hide my real values" It’s better to have friends who accept you for who you are than people around you who judge you.<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:75%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:1108/982;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple2_87a4becb02.webp" alt="simple2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple2_87a4becb02.webp 176w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple2_87a4becb02.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple2_87a4becb02.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple2_87a4becb02.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1108" height="982"></figure><img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp" alt="pattern_5.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5><ol><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Think about your values. It can be difficult to understand what to do in the heat of the moment. Think about what's important to you so you're ready. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Think through positive alternatives to what you don't agree with. Others in your group may prefer what you're offering if you are brave to suggest it. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Learn when to distance yourself or change friends. If you're constantly feeling pressured and it's negatively impacting your life, it might be best to find positive and supportive friends. But don’t rush to cut people off, try talking to them first about how you feel.</li></ol><img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp" alt="pattern_3_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

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Peer Pressure

Rejection and break-ups are a normal part of relationships. It does hurt, but it's also an opportunity for personal growth. Being rejected happens to everyone and is not a reflection of your value as a person.<h5>Know Yourself</h5>Almost everyone will face rejection and break-ups during their life. Even the most confident, strong, and successful people.When this happens, it doesn't mean you're not good enough. Relationships may not work for many reasons, including the timing is not right, or they have different likes and dislikes.Remember that everyone has the right to choose who they date or hang out with. Just as you have the right to make your own choices.If you experience rejection, it is not about your worth as a person.&nbsp; Love and attraction is complicated and is about more than just looks, confidence, or money.Rejection will hurt but learning how to manage your emotions after being rejected is an important life skill.Most people face multiple rejections before finding the right person to be in a relationship with. Good men respond with respect even when upset or disappointed. This shows strength of character. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp" alt="pattern_4.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Know Yourself</h5>From: "she rejected me because I'm not good enough." To "we weren't quite right for each other." Rejection isn't about your worth. It's about how well two people fit together. &nbsp;From: "if I was alpha/manly enough I wouldn't get rejected." To "everyone gets rejected sometimes." It feels painful now, but it doesn't define you. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp" alt="pattern_1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5><ol class="ol1"><li class="li1">Learn how to practice respect when experiencing rejection. Don't try to convince someone or pressure them to change their mind. You can ask what you could have done better while still accepting their choice.</li><li class="li1">Give yourself permission to feel your emotions. It's normal to feel sad or disappointed. The sadness will pass over time and this is not a reflection of your self-worth.</li><li class="li1">Talk to someone you can trust about how you feel. They might be able to offer support and give you a new perspective.</li><li class="li1">Take a break from social media. Checking the other person’s profile or comparing yourself to others can make you feel worse.</li><li class="li1">You can help yourself to move on by focusing on activities that you enjoy and that make you feel good about yourself. Sleep well, eat well, hang out with friends, listen to music you like and do things that help you feel calm. Yes it will hurt, but that pain will also pass. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp" alt="pattern_3.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48"></li></ol>

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<h5>Build Your Mindset</h5>Define your own version of what it means to be a man. Don’t let other people pressure you into being someone you’re not comfortable being.Good men show care and respect for other people. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp" alt="pattern_3.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Know Yourself</h5>Everyone has their own ideas about what it means to be a man, but it is up to you to decide the man you want to be.There is no one way to be a man. What it means to be a man is different around the world and it can change over time.A lot of people say you are a real man if you:<ul class="ul1"><li class="li2">Are physically strong and have muscles</li><li class="li2">Are strong and confident</li><li class="li2">Have money and can take care of yourself</li><li class="li2">Provide money for your family</li><li class="li2">Protect women from harm</li><li class="li2">Deal with problems on your own.</li></ul>These ideas can be good but they can be harmful if taken too far.For example:<ul class="ul1"><li class="li1">You get into fights with other people because you want to act strong.</li><li class="li1">You work too hard and sacrifice your relationships with family and friends because you want to be successful.</li><li class="li1">You control your girlfriend’s behaviour because you think you will need to protect her.</li><li class="li1">You might find it difficult to ask for help when life gets very difficult.</li></ul>Some positive ways of approaching being a man include:<ul class="ul1"><li class="li2">Taking care of your body to stay healthy, not to look tough or attract others.</li><li class="li2">Taking responsibility for your mistakes and be honest. This shows maturity. Apologise when you do something wrong and work to do better next time.</li><li class="li2">Support and work with others, not making decisions for them. Treat everyone equally and respect others’ opinions.</li><li class="li2">Caring about others and their feelings. This includes listening to them without trying to fix things unless they ask your advice.</li><li class="li2">Being open about your struggles and knowing when to ask for help. It takes real strength to ask for help when you need it.</li><li class="li2">Supporting other people in their goals and celebrating their successes. This shows you're confident and not threatened by their success. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp" alt="pattern_1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48"></li></ul>

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5><ul class="ul1"><li class="li1">Think about what being a man means to you, not what you see online or in the media. Follow your true values, not what influencers or others say.</li><li class="li1">Find positive role models in your community that practice empathy and non-judgment. Look for men who demonstrate compassion, integrity, and respect. Not just achievements.</li><li class="li1">Build male friendships where you can be open and honest with each other. This allows you to properly support your friends through challenges rather than making them feel worse. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp" alt="pattern_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48"></li></ul>

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Using AI is like having a really smart assistant that will give you answers based on what you ask it. However, you need to think carefully about how you use it. It should be a learning tool, not a cheat code.&nbsp;<h5>Know Yourself</h5>Generative Artificial Intelligence is one type of AI that can create content based on large amounts of data that it quickly searches and summarises. It is like having a really knowledgeable assistant that can write, draw, and solve problems based on what you ask it to do. Some of the more common Generative AI tools you might have heard of include:<ul><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">ChatGPT &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Gemini &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Copilot &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Perplexity &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Claude &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Deepseek</li></ul> These AI systems have been trained by reading billions of web pages, books, and other content to see patterns in language and creativity. When you engage with an AI tool you provide it a 'prompt'. A prompt is an instruction on what you want the AI to do. To prompt an AI effectively, you should be clear and direct. For example, "write 200 words that summarise the history of Fiji since 1990". You can ask simple questions, like "how many islands are there in New Caledonia?" or you can ask complex questions like "you are a science teacher, explain to me how coral reefs are affected by climate change". AI is not always correct and it’s biased. It learns from information on the internet, which sometimes comes from people who don’t really know the place or the topic – like describing the Pacific the way someone in America might, not someone who actually lives there. Just like you shouldn't believe everything someone else tells you, you need to check AI responses. AI can make mistakes, give outdated information, or even make up content that sounds true. Sometimes AI even makes up sources for their information that do not actually exists. Using AI for your schoolwork is not necessarily cheating. You can use it to help understand concepts or brainstorm ideas, but it’s important not to completely rely on it to do all the work. AI only summarises the information it has read, and sometimes it might read the wrong information for your question. Relying on AI to entirely do a task for you is risky. For example, using it to write your entire essay is cheating. &nbsp;<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:632/538;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple1_47197b9c13.webp" alt="simple1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple1_47197b9c13.webp 183w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple1_47197b9c13.webp 500w," sizes="100vw" width="632" height="538"></figure> <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp" alt="pattern_1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Build Your Mindset</h5> From: "AI will do my work for me" To: "AI can help me understand the task better and give guidance on how to approach it" This helps you to learn more effectively rather than just asking AI to do tasks without your efforts or understanding. From: "I can trust AI" To: "AI is a powerful tool but it has limitations" Like any tool, it is important to understand its strengths and weaknesses and use it appropriately. &nbsp;<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:632/538;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple2_94857a9d5c.webp" alt="simple2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple2_94857a9d5c.webp 183w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple2_94857a9d5c.webp 500w," sizes="100vw" width="632" height="538"></figure><img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp" alt="pattern_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5><ol><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Practice writing prompts. Instead of asking "help me with learning math" try "explain how to solve quadratic equations, in simple language, step by step. Provide an example problem." &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Experiment with different AI tools for different tasks. Try ChatGPT for writing, DALL-E for image creation, Perplexity for researching important topics, or Canva AI for creating graphics. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Learn about ‘prompt engineering’. The better you understand how to give AI clear instructions about format, tone, length, and what you want included and excluded the better results you will get. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Always fact check AI responses. Make sure you check the sources. You can even do this using Perplexity, which will provide sources for all of the responses it generates.</li></ol><img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp" alt="pattern_4.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

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<h5>Build Your Mindset</h5>Focus on physical activity and improving your health - not just your looks.Think: "How can I make my body stronger, faster, and healthier"<figure class="image"><img style="aspect-ratio:1929/48;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp" width="1929" height="48" alt="cover-for-body-images-and-cultural-ideals-4"></figure>

<h5>Know Yourself</h5><img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple1_e169a43111.webp" alt="cover-for-body-images-and-cultural-ideals-1" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple1_e169a43111.webp 228w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple1_e169a43111.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple1_e169a43111.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple1_e169a43111.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="2990" height="2048">As you get older you will notice your body more and compare it with others. We are often told by society what the perfect male body is supposed to look like. &nbsp;Every person has opinions about the 'ideal' body type. This means there is not really one ideal at all. The idea of a perfect male body is socially constructed. &nbsp;Many boys and men feel like they are supposed to: <ul><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Be tall</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Be muscular</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Be strong</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Be athletic</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Have broad shoulders</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Have defined abs&nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Have a V-shape</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Be handsome &nbsp;</li></ul><img class="image_resized" style="aspect-ratio:3733/2292;width:75%;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple2_bd75b45217.webp" alt="cover-for-body-images-and-cultural-ideals-2" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple2_bd75b45217.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple2_bd75b45217.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple2_bd75b45217.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple2_bd75b45217.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="3733" height="2292">&nbsp;This is especially the case on social media which promotes perfection.  But we know that social media is not reality. Content is edited, filtered, or taken in an angle that makes them look good.  &nbsp;While it is important to be physically healthy, perfect body shape is not achievable for most people: <ul><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">It means giving up your life. This includes spending many hours working out, strict nutrition, and not spending time with friends and family. </li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">We all have different body types. Everyone can become healthier but not everyone can achieve to look the same. </li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Seeking perfection can affect your emotions. Trying to get your body-fat down to show muscle definition can make you feel tired, moody and sad. </li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">It can lead to poor mental health. If you constantly strive for perfection you will feel like you are never good enough. The 'goal posts' will get more difficult to achieve.</li></ul><img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp" alt="pattern_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5>Do sport regularly and eat a balanced diet. Find ways of keeping physically fit: <ul><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Swimming in the ocean </li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Gardening and farming </li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Chopping wood </li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Walking in the forest</li></ul>Set fitness goals based on things you can control not on appearance: <ul><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Lifting a certain amount of weight (eg. squat Xkg) </li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Running/ walking a specific distance or time (eg. 5k) </li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Mastering a new physical skill (eg. swimming laps, spearfishing) </li></ul>Treat strength training as a way to improve health first and appearance second.  Recognise that following social media accounts that make you feel bad about your body is not good. Unfollow these and follow accounts that make you feel better about yourself.&nbsp;  Approach your body as your source of support and strength. It is not there to be fixed or changed but to be strengthened and appreciated.  Make friends with other people who also want to improve their physical health. &nbsp;<img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp" alt="pattern_1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

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The internet offers amazing opportunities to learn, create, and connect with others. However, it is important that you are careful and in control, otherwise it can affect your mental health and well-being.&nbsp;<h5>Know Yourself</h5> As men, we need to have a balanced perspective on the benefits and risks of being online. There are many benefits to the internet:<ul><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">You can explore topics you’re passionate about and get new ideas. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Platforms like Tiktok, Instagram, and Facebook let you share your art, music, and gaming skills and connect with other people who like the same things. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Group chats, online gaming, and social media can help you to maintain friendships, even when you might be far apart. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">You can find your community. If you're into rugby, soft ball, anime, or anything else you can think of, there are people in the world who also like this. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Humour is a big part of online life. Funny memes and videos can also make you feel good and brighten your day. &nbsp;</li></ul><figure class="image image_resized" style="width:75%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:1508/866;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple1_993fa2c6a2.webp" alt="simple1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple1_993fa2c6a2.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple1_993fa2c6a2.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple1_993fa2c6a2.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple1_993fa2c6a2.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1508" height="866"></figure>&nbsp;But there are also risks:<ul><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">You might feel bad if you compare yourself to others online. Seeing the edited highlights of other people’s lives might make you feel jealous. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">You might develop a need to constantly check what is happening online. This can mess with your sleep, concentration, and real-life friendships. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">You might see content that is scary or disturbing. This can make you feel anxious. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">People might use what you post or share online against you.</li></ul>It's important to understand that your online life affects your real life. It affects how you think and behave. You can develop friendships online and these can be genuine connections. But it is important to balance online and offline life. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp" alt="pattern_5.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Build Your Mindset</h5> From: "I need to always be online" To: "I choose when I engage online" This helps you to stay in control and not feel like you are being sucked in. From: "everyone online has a perfect life" To: "most people make their social media look perfect, no one is really like that" This helps you remember online content is not real life. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp" alt="pattern_4.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5><ol><li>Set times to check your social media. Choose only a few times per day to check rather than constantly checking. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Control your social media feeds. Don't follow accounts that make you feel bad about yourself. Follow content that inspires you. &nbsp;</li><li>Turn off notifications on some apps. Reduce these alerts to reduce distraction from your real life. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;"><figure class="image image_resized" style="width:75%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:1120/776;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple2_921ef8ee0e.webp" alt="simple2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple2_921ef8ee0e.webp 225w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple2_921ef8ee0e.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple2_921ef8ee0e.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple2_921ef8ee0e.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1120" height="776"></figure>Take regular digital breaks. For example, leave your phone at home for a few hours, or avoid it during meals.</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Think before you post or comment. Ask yourself:<ul><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Will what I share be helpful?</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Will I regret it later?</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Would I also say this to someone’s face?</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Can this be used against me?</li></ul></li></ol><img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp" alt="pattern_3_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

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You always have the right to block people online, even without a reason. Protecting yourself is more important than worrying about hurting someone's feelings.&nbsp;<h5>Know Yourself</h5>It's important to know that it is ok if you need to block someone online. Blocking stops someone from messaging you or seeing your posts. Some apps also let you mute, unfollow, or remove someone. These tools help you stay in control of who is seeing what you post. You don't need a reason to block them. If they're being mean or just making you feel uncomfortable that's enough.<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:908/906;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple1_6ff8628a63.webp" alt="simple1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple1_6ff8628a63.webp 156w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple1_6ff8628a63.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple1_6ff8628a63.webp 750w," sizes="100vw" width="908" height="906"></figure>Blocking is a normal part of being responsible online. It's the same as getting to choose who comes to your house, you get to control who you interact with online. Your own mental health and comfort matter more than someone else's feelings. If talking to someone makes you feel upset, you should protect yourself. Trust your instincts. While the other person might be disappointed, that's ok. They will understand that online friendships don't always work out. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp" alt="pattern_3_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Build Your Mindset</h5>From: "I don't want to hurt their feelings" To: "I need to protect myself" It's important to respect yourself first and trust that you need to look after your own wellbeing.<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:1116/1040;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple2_3c79cd4bf6.webp" alt="simple2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple2_3c79cd4bf6.webp 167w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple2_3c79cd4bf6.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple2_3c79cd4bf6.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple2_3c79cd4bf6.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1116" height="1040"></figure> From: "we've been talking so long, I can't just leave" To: "just because I've spent a lot of time with them doesn't change the fact I feel uncomfortable" The amount of time you've spent with someone doesn't mean you have to talk to them forever. You can always unblock them later if you change your mind. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp" alt="pattern_5.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5><ol><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Learn how to block on <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" href="https://www.facebook.com/help/168009843260943">Facebook</a>, <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" href="https://help.instagram.com/426700567389543">Instagram</a> and <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" href="https://support.tiktok.com/en/using-tiktok/followers-and-following/blocking-the-users">TikTok</a>. Don't wait for the situation to get really terrible or give them too many chances. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Block someone on all platforms you are connected. Otherwise they might try to reach you other ways. Blocking people online if you feel uncomfortable is normal and shows that you really care about your own wellbeing. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Tell a trusted adult if someone tries to get around your blocks. If they create new accounts to contact you, ask friends to message you for them, or try to reach you through other platforms, that's harassment and you can report it. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Move on with your life. Don't check their profiles, ask friends about them, or wonder what they're saying about you. People have loads of online friends, the person on the other end likely isn’t too hurt either.&nbsp;</li></ol><img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp" alt="pattern_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

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Blocking

Online friends can be positive and valuable. But it’s also a bit risky you need to look for warning signs and protect yourself.&nbsp;<h5>Know Yourself</h5>Online friendships can be very valuable. You might find people that share the same hobbies and interests, are facing the same challenges, or have different thoughts to your normal friends.<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:75%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:1252/656;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple1_c0a8c25fe0.webp" alt="simple1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple1_c0a8c25fe0.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple1_c0a8c25fe0.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple1_c0a8c25fe0.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple1_c0a8c25fe0.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1252" height="656"></figure>Online friendships can also help you practice socialising with others. There's less pressure chatting online compared to real-life situations. Online friendships allow you to connect with people from different backgrounds and cultures. This can help you to see the world differently. It's easier for people to not be their real self online. They can tell you they are a different age, a different gender, from a fake location, or anything else they choose to fake. Even the pictures they post and send you can be fake. It’s difficult to check if the person you are talking to is who they say they are, to make sure your friendship is positive and safe. This means you need to be careful. It's ok to connect with and trust people online. But it's also important to be cautious and check who they are. You can always change your mind if your feelings about friendship change. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp" alt="pattern_3_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Build Your Mindset</h5> From: "Online friends are the same as offline" To: "Online friendships require some caution" Connection is important but harmful people also exist.<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:41.95%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:780/656;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple2_c05fccdb47.webp" alt="simple2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple2_c05fccdb47.webp 185w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple2_c05fccdb47.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple2_c05fccdb47.webp 750w," sizes="100vw" width="780" height="656"></figure> From: "if they share personal details about themselves I should too" To: "I can be friendly without sharing everything" If someone shares their personal information, it doesn't mean you have to do the same. Their personal details also might not be true &nbsp;<img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp" alt="pattern_1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5><ol><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Keep your personal information private. Don't share your full name, exact location, school name, home address, phone number, or family details. Also, make sure the pictures you post don’t give this information.</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Look for warning signs in your conversations. Be cautious if someone asks lots of personal questions quickly, tries to keep you away from friends or family, asks for photos (especially private ones, such as nude photos), or wants to move conversations to other apps.<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:978/808;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple3_72be57f899.webp" alt="simple3.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple3_72be57f899.webp 189w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple3_72be57f899.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple3_72be57f899.webp 750w," sizes="100vw" width="978" height="808"></figure></li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Ask for a video call. This helps you to see who they really are. You should also check other social media platforms to see if they are real, check with mutual friends, or find others to check what the person is really like. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Tell a trusted adult about any important online friendships. They can then offer advice when you need it. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Trust your instincts if something feels wrong. If conversations become uncomfortable, someone pressures you to do things you don't want to do, or you feel manipulated or controlled, don't ignore those feelings - they're often true. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Know when to end the friendship. Block the person on all platforms, don't engage in arguments about why you're stopping contact, save evidence of any threats or uncomfortable behaviour, and tell a trusted adult.</li></ol><img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp" alt="pattern_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

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Meeting People Online

There is a lot of fake information online. Sometimes people create content to try and trick people. Learning to identify trustworthy information protects you from being tricked or scammed online.&nbsp;<h5>Know Yourself</h5>Not everything that looks real is trustworthy. Fakes are getting harder to spot. ‘Disinformation’ is fake information that’s made on purpose to trick people.&nbsp; ‘Misinformation’ is when someone shares something that’s not true, but they don’t know it’s wrong. Not many people check if something is true before they share it, so you can't assume something is true just because it was shared by someone you know. Nobody is expert at everything. A person might know a lot about basketball, but that does not mean they are expert on mental health. Even videos and photos can be fake. AI allows us to create fake images and videos easily. Critical thinking and observation skills help you figure out what's fake. Always question what you see online.<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:75%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:1260/1040;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple1_772b18b610.webp" alt="simple1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple1_772b18b610.webp 189w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple1_772b18b610.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple1_772b18b610.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple1_772b18b610.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1260" height="1040"></figure><img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp" alt="pattern_4.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Build Your Mindset</h5>From: "Only stupid people believe online fakes" To: "anyone can be misled by fakes" Understanding that anyone can be tricked means we all need to learn how to avoid wrong information. &nbsp;<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:858/842;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple2_29e1cea621.webp" alt="simple2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple2_29e1cea621.webp 159w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple2_29e1cea621.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple2_29e1cea621.webp 750w," sizes="100vw" width="858" height="842"></figure> From: "Its ok to just share" To: "I have a responsibility to check what I share" The information you share can cause harm, so check it before you share it. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp" alt="pattern_1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5><ol><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Create a mental checklist before sharing anything online. Ask:<ul><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Who made this? &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Is it reported on by other sources? &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Did I check this is actually real? &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Who benefits if I share this? &nbsp;</li></ul></li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Practice double-checking. When you see something online that you doubt, open a new app and search for it again. Check who made it. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Use multiple apps, don’t rely on one. If content is in more places, it is more trustworthy. For news and current events, search trusted websites for things you see. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Look for signs of low-quality content. This might include spelling errors, dramatic titles, crazy images, and no sources. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">If you doubt information, ask for the source. If there is no source available, don't believe the information. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Learn about clickbait. These are links that try to get you to click on them. They will have trick headlines ("you won't believe this!"), are often designed to be shocking, or have funny or cute pictures to attract your attention. If you click on them you might be scammed.</li></ol><img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp" alt="pattern_3_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

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Not Everything You See Online Is True

You have the power to make online spaces safer. Report inappropriate content and behaviour when you see it.&nbsp;<h5>Know Yourself</h5>Inappropriate content is anything that is against the rules of the app or social media platform or could harm someone else. This includes things like:<ul><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">cyberbullying and harassment &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">hate speech, like racism or homophobia &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">sexual or violent content &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">misinformation or disinformation &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">spam &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">promoting dangerous activities</li></ul><figure class="image image_resized" style="width:75%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:944/780;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple1_7380473c82.webp" alt="simple1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple1_7380473c82.webp 189w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple1_7380473c82.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple1_7380473c82.webp 750w," sizes="100vw" width="944" height="780"></figure>While you might feel ok about some of this content, it is important to report it. This helps to protect other people, like younger children. By reporting inappropriate content, you contribute to making our online community safer. Social media companies use reports to identify patterns and prevent this content from appearing again. Reporting is different to blocking or unfollowing. Blocking only protects you. Reporting helps to protect everyone by telling the platform that this content isn't right. If you report, the social media platform will not tell the other person it was you. If you report and the content turns out to not be against the platform rules, it also won’t be a problem. The companies know that you were just trying to do the right thing. If the content is harmful and the platform doesn’t take it down, it’s because most platforms use AI to review content that gets reported. These systems often struggle to understand context, tone, or local language. For example, they may not recognize sarcasm, emotional abuse, or harmful jokes. Platforms especially struggle if they’re in local languages. It’s a flaw in the platform and not from you – you did the right thing by reporting. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp" alt="pattern_1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Build Your Mindset</h5>From: "it's not my problem" To: "I can help others by reporting" Taking action when you see bad behaviour online helps to make online spaces safer for everyone. &nbsp;<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:530/780;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple2_25230d0a48.webp" alt="simple2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple2_25230d0a48.webp 106w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple2_25230d0a48.webp 340w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple2_25230d0a48.webp 510w," sizes="100vw" width="530" height="780"></figure> From: "nothing bad will happen if I ignore this" To: "harmful content can get worse and badly affect people" Reporting inappropriate content can help to prevent problems from getting more serious. From: "I don't want to cause drama" To: "I'm helping to prevent bigger problems" What might seem small now can sometimes lead to bigger problems in our online community. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp" alt="pattern_4.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5>How to report in <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" href="https://help.instagram.com/2922067214679225/">Instagram</a>:Tap the three dots (…) in the top right corner of the post, story, or comment you want to report. Select "Report" from the menu, then choose the reason (like "bullying or harassment" or "hate speech"). Follow the prompts to provide additional details and submit your report.How to report in <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" href="https://www.facebook.com/help/1380418588640631">Facebook</a>:Click the three dots (…) next to the post, comment, or in the top right of someone's profile. Select "Find support or report" from the dropdown menu. Choose the reason for your report from the options provided, then answer the questions to give Facebook more information about the issue.How to report in <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" href="https://www.tiktok.com/safety/en/reporting">TikTok</a>:Press and hold on the video you want to report, then tap "Report" from the menu that appears. Select the right category like "harassment and bullying" or "hateful behavior." Provide information about why you're reporting the content and tap "submit" to send your report.<ol><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Keep screenshots as evidence. Before reporting, take a screenshot of the inappropriate content in case the person deletes it or the platform takes it down. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Report again if the person continues to do it. Repeated reports will help to prevent the content from appearing again. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Talk to a trusted adult about what happened. Things you can say include:<ul><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">“Can I tell you about something weird I saw online?”</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">“Someone sent me a message and it didn't feel right”</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">“My friend is getting mean comments and I don't know what to do”</li></ul></li></ol><img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp" alt="pattern_5.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

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Respectful communication online means treating others with the same respect you would want in real life. Think before you post and remember there is a real person on the other side of the screen.&nbsp;<h5>Know Yourself</h5> When we engage with people online, we can forget we are connecting with real people. Online communication feels less personal and when you can't see the other person's reaction you might not see the impact of your words. Remembering to be respectful of other people and ourselves is important and should influence how you act online. Behaving disrespectfully online can have long-term negative consequences, as everything we create online can remain public forever. If you are not careful with what you post it will influence how friends, family, or even future employers see you. Even if you think you can delete it later, digital data can usually be found. Even if you post anonymously, it can be traced back to you.<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:968/456;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple1_b6b58dff84.webp" alt="simple1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple1_b6b58dff84.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple1_b6b58dff84.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple1_b6b58dff84.webp 750w," sizes="100vw" width="968" height="456"></figure>When talking to others online you should treat them with respect, just as you would in person. Understand that although they are not in front of you, you might negatively affect them with your words. When communicating online, be polite and don't attack others, respect other's boundaries on what they do and don't want to talk about. Think carefully about what you're saying and how it might be interpreted. We are used to seeing really negative language online, so you might think this is just normal. But it doesn't make it right. You can choose to change this. As men, we can take responsibility for how our words can make someone else feel. This is a sign of maturity and good character. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp" alt="pattern_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_2_2a56f318d0.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Build Your Mindset</h5> From: "I can say whatever I want online" To: "I choose my words carefully" You should think about the impact of your communication, not just your right to speak.<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:75%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:968/456;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple2_bfa94b4b8f.webp" alt="simple2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple2_bfa94b4b8f.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple2_bfa94b4b8f.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple2_bfa94b4b8f.webp 750w," sizes="100vw" width="968" height="456"></figure>From: "it's not my problem if someone else gets upset" To: "I should care about how my words affect others" This helps to develop empathy and will benefit all your relationships. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp" alt="pattern_1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5><figure class="image image_resized" style="width:30.03%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:540/530;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple3_ff8c44e77c.webp" alt="simple3.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple3_ff8c44e77c.webp 159w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple3_ff8c44e77c.webp 500w," sizes="100vw" width="540" height="530"></figure><ol><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Before you post or type anything ask yourself:<ul><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">would I say the same thing to their face?</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">would I say the same thing in front of my friends or family?</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">how might this affect my reputation and impact other people that see it?</li></ul></li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">When you're angry or upset wait a while before you post it. Check to see if you feel the same way, as you may say something you regret later. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Read your message out aloud to yourself before you send it. This helps you to check the tone and make sure it is not misunderstood. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Create a personal rule about topics you won't discuss online, such as religion or gender. These are conversations that can be easily misinterpreted and are better had with people in person. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Practice giving compliments and positive feedback. Try to be a positive and supportive person online, this will flow into your offline life and interactions with other people.</li></ol> <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp" alt="pattern_4.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

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When you are online you might experience scams, bullying or other harms. You can protect yourself online by being alert and knowing what to look for.&nbsp;<h5>Know Yourself</h5> When you are online be aware of these common risks:<ul><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Scams and phishing: these are fake emails or messages that look like they're real. When you click on links within them, your passwords, money, or personal information can be stolen. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Cyberbullying and harassment: people can target you with mean comments, spread rumours, send threatening messages, or try to humiliate you. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Oversharing personal data: if you post your full name, address, school, phone number, or other private details then strangers can find you and put you in danger. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Inappropriate content: you might accidentally see violent, sexual, or disturbing material that can affect your mental health. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Reputation damage: if you share inappropriate content, post offensive jokes, or attack others online it could hurt your real-life relationships. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Meeting harmful people: you might interact online with people that ask you for personal photos, expose you to harmful ideas about the world, or try to separate you from your friends and family. &nbsp;</li></ul><figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:986/798;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple1_2b92ba1e45.webp" alt="simple1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple1_2b92ba1e45.webp 193w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple1_2b92ba1e45.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple1_2b92ba1e45.webp 750w," sizes="100vw" width="986" height="798"></figure> <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp" alt="pattern_3_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Build Your Mindset</h5> From: "this person seems nice, I can&nbsp; trust them" To: "I am cautious about all people I meet online" Just because someone is friendly&nbsp; doesn't mean you should trust them. You can also change your mind about people if you start to feel uncomfortable. Take care&nbsp;when meeting someone in-person that you know from online, if you do decide to do this make sure to do so in a public space with others around, and that you have told an adult who and where you are meeting. It would be best if you can somehow figure out if this person is really who they says they are before agreeing to meet them. &nbsp;<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:50%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:986/870;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple2_4fea9b3d89.webp" alt="simple2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple2_4fea9b3d89.webp 177w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple2_4fea9b3d89.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple2_4fea9b3d89.webp 750w," sizes="100vw" width="986" height="870"></figure> From: "cyberbullying isn’t serious" To: "I will get support from&nbsp; a trusted adult when someone is harassing or threatening me online." Getting help early helps to prevent the situation from getting worse. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp" alt="pattern_3_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5><ol><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Learn how to protect yourself on different social media platforms: <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" href="https://www.facebook.com/help/166863010078512">Facebook</a>, <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" href="https://help.instagram.com/670309656726033/?helpref=related_articles">Instagram</a>, <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" href="https://support.tiktok.com/en/safety-hc/account-and-user-safety/avoid-fraudulent-message-attacks-on-tiktok">TikTok</a>. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Keep your personal information private. Don't share important pieces of information, like your address, school name, or telephone number publicly. You should also make sure that the pictures you post don’t show too much personal information about you (like your school uniform). &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Know how to spot scams:<ul><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Look at the email address carefully. Real companies use official domains (like @netflix.com, not @netf1ix.com with a "1")</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Check for spelling mistakes, words that make you feel like it’s an emergency, or threats like "Your account will be deleted in 24 hours!"</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Hover over any links without clicking to see if the URL looks suspicious or doesn't match the company's real website</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Never enter passwords or personal info from a link in an email - instead, go directly to the company's official website</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">When in doubt, ask someone with good internet knowledge to help you verify if it is something you can trust &nbsp;</li></ul></li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Know what to do when experiencing cyberbullying:<ul><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Don't respond. This often makes the situation worse and gives the bully encouragement.</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Take screenshots of the harassment as evidence before blocking or reporting.</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Block the person on all platforms and report them to the website or app administrators.</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Tell a trusted adult. Parents and teachers can help you handle the situation.</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">If the threats involve physical harm, you and your parents might need to contact the local police.</li></ul></li></ol><img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp" alt="pattern_5.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_5_4da607d8cd.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

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Grooming is when adults tricks you into trusting them so they can take advantage of you later. Knowing the warning signs helps you to understand whether someone is a real friend or someone trying to hurt you.&nbsp;<h5>Know Yourself</h5>When adults trick you in to trusting them so that they can later use you to get what they want, is called grooming. It's a process where someone builds trust with you first and then slowly tries to get you to do things you wouldn't normally do. &nbsp;They will give you attention and make you feel like you're special. They will say things like "you're so mature" or "I've never met anyone like you" to make you think your relationship with them is unique and important. &nbsp;They will start with regular chat. But then will then slowly bring up sexual topics, ask for photos, or ask you to do things that you’re not comfortable with. &nbsp;They will ask you to keep secrets, might say bad things about people you're close to, or claim that others "just don't get" your friendship with them. &nbsp;They also might give gifts or compliments to make you feel like you owe them. They might send presents or constantly tell you how great you are, so you feel guilty if you don't do what they want. &nbsp;These situations don’t start off as scary. They will seem nice and friendly but you might start to feel more uncomfortable over time.<figure class="image image_resized" style="width:75%;"><img style="aspect-ratio:1260/880;" src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/simple1_9a562035f3.webp" alt="simple1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_simple1_9a562035f3.webp 223w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_simple1_9a562035f3.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_simple1_9a562035f3.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_simple1_9a562035f3.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1260" height="880"></figure> <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp" alt="pattern_3_2.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_3_2_174e7421e5.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Build Your Mindset</h5> From: "Grooming only happens to girls" To: "Grooming happens to boys, so I need to be careful" Boys are also targeted online (and offline!) but might not tell anyone from shame and embarrassment. &nbsp; From: "this person really understands me" To: "why is this person so interested in being friends with me?" It is not normal for adults to have secret relationships with teenagers. <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp" alt="pattern_1.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_1_d209c6ee06.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">

<h5>Develop These Skills</h5><ol><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Know the difference between being friendly and grooming. Normal people ask about your hobbies and respect when you say no, while groomers dig for personal info, ask about your family problems, or want to know when you're home alone. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Watch out if you have an online friend that wants to push your boundaries. Be careful if someone slowly brings up sexual stuff, asks for photos, wants to video chat when you're alone, or suggests meeting up without your family knowing. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Pay attention when someone wants to get close to you very quickly. If they say they love you fast, seem to always be online to chat with you, and want to meet quickly, they might be grooming you. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">Trust your instincts, if it doesn't feel right. If you feel uncomfortable with what they are asking of you, listen to those feelings and take action. If you haven’t shared any personal information with this person yet, you can just block them. If you have shared personal information, then you should speak to an adult you trust. &nbsp;</li><li style="white-space:pre-wrap;">If you think someone is grooming you, collect proof. Take screenshots and gather evidence of everything they have said and their profile. If they gave you a phone number or email address screenshot that too. Write down what happened and how it made you feel – this can help you feel more confident if you want to talk to someone later. Stop talking to them and block them on all platforms, then tell a trusted adult.</li></ol> <img src="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp" alt="pattern_4.webp" srcset="https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/thumbnail_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 245w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/small_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 500w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/medium_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 750w,https://d2wayplw2f1nto.cloudfront.net/gallery/w_16x9/large_pattern_4_09f0d01b88.webp 1000w," sizes="100vw" width="1929" height="48">